Today, I turn 35 years old. It seems like a good birthday to contemplate the lessons that I’ve learned and the things that I consider to be my personal truths. The day before my scheduled c-section I wrote a letter to my husband and a letter to my children in case I did not make it through the surgery.This got me thinking about my beliefs that I would like to pass on to my children.
I sat down over the past couple days and just wrote the first 35 things that came to my mind. These might be different if they were written last week or next week but at least today, September 7, 2011 these are my truths.
1. There is a higher power, who I happen to call God, and there are miracles everywhere happening all the time.
2. The purpose of life always comes down to one word…love.
3. God is love.
4. Think of every person in your life as a teacher, even your enemy has something to teach you.
5. All you have is now. The past is gone and the future is not here yet.
6. Moderation is the key to many things in life, such as enjoying good food and exercise but it’s not the key to everything.
7. With some things you have to give it your ALL, knowing which things those are will take some widsom, which unfortunately has to be earned.
8. Your body is your temple. Do not take your body and your health for granted.
9. Treat others how you would like to be treated.
10. If I was in charge of our country or society, then we would put education and health care as our top priorities. I believe a healthy, well-educated society could accomplish simply amazing feats.
11. What you put out into the world will come back to you eventually and sometimes immediately.
12. Take responsibility for the energy you bring to the space. courtesy of Jill Bolte Taylor
13. When people show you who they are believe them. courtesy of Maya Angelou
14. Take long, deep breaths.
15. Try to do more listening than talking.
16. Most people, especially children, just want to be heard, seen and accepted for who they are.
17. It’s okay if somebody doesn’t like you. If you know that you haven’t hurt them, then it probably has nothing to do with you anyway.
18. It’s okay to be different, especially when it means being authentic or standing up for what is morally or ethically right.
19. Marriage is sacred, complex and wonderful. There will also be times when it is challenging and it seems like work but I’ve found most things that have been difficult in my life reap the greatest rewards, which bring me to…
20. Raising children is amazingly rewarding but before you actually do it no one can make you understand how challenging it can be. There will be days when you are brought to your knees crying and wondering how you will make it through the day. When that happens, take a few good, deep breaths, pray to God for strength and get back up on your feet, knowing that I did that for you and many, many, many mothers and fathers did it before me.
21. Follow your passion and the money will follow. How will you know it’s your passion? It’s the thing that excites you, that makes you forget that you’re tired. You think about in your free time and it’s the thing that makes you forget all about time when you’re doing it.
22. No person can make you complete. You need to be a whole, emotionally healthy person on your own if you want a good relationship with another whole, emotionally healthy person.
23. You are the only person responsible for your emotions. Do not allow another person to take your peace.
24. Friends are the family that you choose.
25. Choose your friends very carefully and do not be afraid to “break-up” with friends if the relationship becomes toxic and your “friend” doesn’t want to work on it.
26. When choosing your life partner make sure you have a strong friendship and watch how he/she treats their mother and father, the waitstaff at restaurants, and make sure you would want your children to be just like them.
27. You teach people how to treat you.
28. If you want to be a happy person, then develop good relationships, develop an attitude of gratitude and try to stay in the now.
29. Don’t let mistakes get you down. In fact, rejoice in your mistake because they make the best learning opportunities and sometimes the outcome is better than you could have imagined.
30. Acknowledge the power of laughter, lightheartedness and a smile. God has a sense of humor, so do your best to find the humor in situations.
31. Your thoughts are more powerful than you can even imagine. So try to be positive and find a way to control your thoughts. There are many forms of meditation, find one that works for you.
32. Worrying is a complete waste of time. It will not change the outcome and it will only hurt you. Do what you have the power to do and then let it go.
33. Most people are good. But if you watch the news, then you might believe otherwise. Expect good from people but if they show you different then do your best to stay away from them.
34. Every human being is born with something special to offer the world. If you want to be great, then use your special gifts to serve.
35. The more you know, the more you will realize how little you know.
What do you know for sure?